Thursday, May 22, 2008

The Virtuous Life: Chastity

I was reading The Art of Manliness recently and came upon this twelfth post in a series about living Ben Franklin’s 13 virtues.

It's a really interesting commentary on how chastity fits into living in todays world of "hook ups" and "bumpn' uglies".

The author quotes a friend as saying: “Sex is like ice cream. The more flavors you sample, the harder it becomes to settle on one flavor for the rest of your life.”

The quote, I think has merit.

There are people who live a lifestyle that is filled with disposable relationships, (both platonic and sexual) and a disconnect I'm hearing described by women on the dating scene that I didn't experience when I was dating.
I touched on it in this post about how Porn Ruined Sex a while ago.

I find this whole willingness of women to flash pussy in public, and straight girls going "girl on girl" in clubs to entice a man who doesn't respect them, or most probably won't even take the time to get to know them anyway, rather pathetic and sad.

The New York Times did an article called The Affairs of Men which seems to advocate a man's right to infidelity.
Forgive me for not reading the whole article, but I got bored with the theme.

I'll leave it to Boinkology to do it for me:

"Maybe it’s the constant rehashing of the tired trope that men want sex more than women, and this is why they cheat; maybe it’s the author’s casual assumption that we’d all be so much better off if wives simply turned a blind eye while their husbands went off and banged 20-year-old waitresses. Though the piece does give a nod to polyandry and the notion that women, too, might want to take on multiple partners, the overwhelming vibe is that sexual variety is something that men deserve, and that their wives should happily allow them — with seemingly no thought or consideration towards what, exactly, these wives might want."

I lean towards the belief that either you are a "cheater" or you're not.
Either you have it in you, or you don't.
I don't believe in blaming the victim in infidelity,'s a popular justification.
In my opinion, it's internal issues in the cheater that plague him/her that have little to do with the person they are cheating on.

It has to do with virtues and internal beliefs.

Howard Stern has been quoted as saying: "Even looking at the hottest chick, you know there's some guy out there tired of banging her."

How else can you explain the luck of these girls?