My 2 Second Shelf Life

How Porn Ruined Sex

Reading this blog post got me thinking.

It's been a long time since I've been on the dating scene, but I've got single girlfriends who tell me things that make me cringe.

"...just like the younger generation apparently doesn't believe sex transpired unless they documented it on an easily memory stick-able format, "they don't think sex is 'good' unless it's somehow fetish-y,""

That is a sad statement.
It tells me that there is a disconnect from emotion and caring, a crack like addiction to the "next level" without the depth required to to get to that level through an inspired connection between two people...without the accoutrements.
For most of the women I know, sex is mostly about brain candy.
Yes...yes...attraction, looks, the little things...the way a watch sits on a man's wrist, the way he carries himself...a million little things that lead up to it.

"...She went along with it. "I really liked him!" It involved spanking with a special S&M belt and calling her his dirty little slut and other highly inventive nicknames to indicate that he was "dominating" her. ("I do that to keep from getting too close to women," the dude, a psychiatrist, later explained. Nice job!)"

The "going along with it" that so many women are doing is a sad state of affairs.
It tells me that women don't value themselves enough to follow their own feelings of discomfort in a sexual situation and context. It tells me that they're settling for sex without the real next 
level of desire and passion.
For what?
Just to be with someone? Anyone?

Doing it to keep from getting too close to women, says to me that many men are just plain chicken.